THE ART : LEAVE & STAY

In life your either being left or leaving , both are hard but sometimes is necessary , when you leave be dignified enough to respect the one your leaving , often time when your the one leaving you feel you have some authority but remember thats a cycle today your leaving tomorrow ul be left so treat that person in a respectful way putting yourself in same situation , see it wount hurt less for the one your leaving but youl give yourself the chance to respect yourself enough to care despite you changing your mind , make it clear to yourself first when you leave because they is nothing more hurtful than leaving and coming back only for you to leave again .

When you are the one being left , hold yourself first and understand its ok for people to change their mind , and its ok for someone to respect you enough to leave rather than staying back and they dont want you, i think being with someone who doesnt want you is worse than someone saying its time for me to go , respect yourself enough to find other than the one leaving to show your emotions turn to your close trusted person and let it out , il say the best is to turn to Allah subhana wataala and pray , then give yourself time, see one mistake we most do is allow the time we need to heal seek sympathy from the one leaving , no let that yourself feel the hurt until you acknowledge the reality of the new situation your in , dont seek for sympathy regardless of how much hurt , how much you feel youv invested , how much you feel you want those people to stay , because love is you and not the situation , when you understand that as long as your there you can always show your love then it will be easier for you to let go , fear and anger are reflection of your ego , being hurt is reflection of your heart and be sure you will heal , so love yourself enough to stay alone until someone who will want to be with you comes along , not for you to insist to want to be with someone who doesnt want you , let it be clear that despite all life challenges you matter , your the love and the compassion so for that to be reflected you need to be present , always give a priority to yourself and know you matter and youl always be love if you love yourself enough , u might adjust here and there but youl still be there ... 

 

 

 

 

 

SOCIAL MEDIA PLATFORM

Bismillah waswalatu wa salam ala Rasulillah ,

We are living in the world of social media interaction , our lives are subjected to the internet so much that when we have no data its like our lives has ended , the distraction that social media and the internet has brought to us is we are depressed without knowledge , we have forgotten what its like to have time on our own , when we claim we are alone or isolated it actually means we are with our phones or our gadget . we have been addicted to the drug of internet , some of us we cant sleep unless fall asleep when our you tube or something is on , we wake up to our phones , we have forgotten to live our lives we are busy in peoples lives .

The internet platform is not just a gadget , its also your privacy , long time ago if you wanted to have club experience you must have to go to the place where that is available , but now its all in ur phone , your phone and gadget is your means to know where you stand with Allah subhana wataala , how much self control one has with all the power they have , how much self cautious one is with all the secrets your gadget can keep for you .

The fitna is much as well as the reward , just because you think you can get sins while you get consumed with social media , think of how much Allah will reward you , knowing you had all it took for you to disobey Him , so much that it was all on your choice but you choose not to , you choose to only use the platform for kheir , you choose not to be irresponsible with your speech , you chose to control yourself when your constantly being called to haram , you held yourself down , you chose to control your life while being on track with technology . We have to be aware of something Allah sees you sinning and can forgive you and most of all Allah sees your restrain and He will not fail to reward you .

PEACE AT HEART

Bismillah Rahmani Rahim .... Peace and Blessings be upon Prophet Muhammad , His family and Companions.

O you who believe, seek help through steadfastness and the Contact Prayers (salat). Allah is with those who steadfastly persevere.
This verse states that we should seek help in prayer ,this means that when we pray we should attain peace and be protected from sins .

Have u ever felt your praying but things are not right , u try your best to be regular in your prayers but still feel a certain emptiness in your heart , u are not sure whats wrong as you feel prayer should itself grant you the peace of heart . then you start feeling your doing something wrong but your not sure because u feel your trying your level best , shaitan might even whisper that your prayers are not accepted and worse u might start slagging a bit because u feel u dont need to be miserable if your praying . 

The soul also recognizes when u deprive it from its food , that is the closeness of Allah , the beauty of that feeling of guilt is that it sends a certain direction towards you wanting to know exactly whats wrong , it makes you hate the situation your in and you want to find ways to attain the inner peace , Alhamdulillah if one is persistent in trying to find the cure for the empty feeling they sure get it healed . 

Shaitan on the other hand  wants you to get immune to that guilt feeling so that u dont feel anything at all  after a while and when you actually choose to ignore it thats when you find yourself really lost and he makes it more harder to find your way back because you feel you have done too much damage already, then makes you think that your so much of a sinner and you have no way back just live that life your used to .

Often time i would say we fail to be realistic with ourselves , we are in denial that their are some acts of obidience we ignore or maybe we feel you dont have the strength to do it . or your  not ready to be more than average yet , or you fear your opportunities . learn to check yourself , ask yourself what are you doing wrong and be very honest with yourself , then seek forgiveness dont assume your not ready to leave it so your post ponding forgiveness just seek forgiveness anyways , another thing is add on some good deeds , fight that guilt by reeping out something good , it can be anything like saying hi to someone who you havent spoken for a while that happiness you give them might bring out blessings , or listen to a good lecture or recite Quran with a beautiful voice. keep off that sin you have spotted or try to reduce it to the minimum level , stop wasting time , seek knowledge we have so many ways Alhamdulillah this days for seeking knowledge , then try your best to minimize eating , sleeping and talking ... this remedies were given by ibn Qayyim May Allah be pleased with him .
PARADISE AND HELL WERE BOTH CREATED FOR SINNERS THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IS REPENTANCE ....

How to attain happiness

Bismillah Rahamn Rahim

we all are seeking for happiness , we are all looking for that one person who will make us happy , we like environments that makes us happy , everyone is protecting themselves from anything that will ruin their happiness . all this we try to seek but its all temporary .

recently i found someone who really made me happy , this person was more than what i have ever imagined and they came in the most un expected way , unfortunately as much as we wanted to keep each other happy for a longer time we had to face situation that we have to let go . i felt sad because i enjoyed how those people made me feel , i dint want to loose them because i felt they were the reason for my happiness , ever since i have been on the verge of saying goodbye i found that am upset with myself , i have develop a quck reaction to anger and i get irritated so easily .

then i found myself talking to a friend of mine regarding happiness , and it hit me , i have been a victim of my own self, i ask myself was i not happy before i met this person , why do i have to forget myself and my happiness just because they left . i realise its because i was the receiver . the person who made me happy was the one who was already happy so they were only sharing the happiness they already had, as for me i was only the reciever of the happiness.

so what happens when the happiness siezed then i feel sad because the space is empty and now i had to find ways of feeling up that space thats y i was very easy to get upset because of the internal frustration of having not to receive that happiness . then i realised one thing i forgot to make myself happy while recieveing the happiness .

this is the situation that most of us have , we look for happiness from external sources forgeting we have to be the ones happy first before we even be part of others happiness . once you learn to be happy then youl be sure to easily appreciate when your recieve extra happiness and you be able to move on when that extra happiness is taken from you because the largest part of happiness which is you is still there with you .

happiness should start from you before you think of giving it to others , learn to be a giver and not a receiver , learn to be the unconditional source because you are already contended so youl be harmed less and ul benefit more .

whats your attraction

In The Name of Allah The Most Gracious Most Merciful , Peace and Blessings Be upon the last messenger Muhammad ....

We live in a world where judgement of beauty has shifted to be outer rather than the inside , we have  more plastic surgeries clinic than orphanages . everyone is busy either loosing weight , keeping fit, eating organic or doing a boob job or butt job . everyone is busy making their physics more attractive and strangly its not only the disease of women but men also are becoming plastic .

Ourselves we are comprised of two elements for us to be named living beings , that is the soul and the body , the body is the outer cover of the soul , without the soul the body is considered dead and would literally not function and we all know that . The mistakes we make is that we forget about our souls and we are busy with our body and by the time we realize the soul is almost departing .

The attraction of the soul is what reflects the real you , because nomata how much u spend on making your body attractive if your soul is not attractive then be sure they will always be a but after mentioning your body , would want to hear people saying shes beautiful but ugly inside that the time when the outer beauty is old or gone then no one associates with you because of your in attractive soul.

Attractiveness of the soul includes virtues , a soul that has elements of goodness within it , this are things one is known for , they define you , they are what u subject yourself to and they are what makes you the person you are. we identify you by your charactiristcs which are derived from the attractiveness of the soul and this attributes are what u carry to your grave .

Some of the attributes of an attractive soul is being God fearing , why this is the 1st element is because when you learn to fear Allah then u will know the duties of the soul same as the body so u will automatically have attractive body because ul understand taking care of the body is part of your duties to your Maker. Humility , Respect ,Love , Care , Kindness, Generosity, Courage , Wisdom e.t.c

Some people will claim that when you have element of goodness you are a subject of weakness , respect shouldnt be earn through fear but the best respect should be earn through love . being courageous doesnt mean you dont fear but it means you have the ability to fight fear , saying sorry doesnt mean your humiliated it rather means you are smart enough to understand love is one key missing , rudeness is lame , people should learn to understand that being virtues is more success than being beautiful .

NEver ArrIVE

asalam aleikum warhmatullah wabarakatu

never feel sorry for a sinner if they are still breathing and never feel better of yourself if ur still breathing , one istighfar ( seeking forgiveness) from them can change their situation to higher level than yours and one atom of pride from you can take away all your hasanat( good deeds) .

we live in a society where when we do one khairat( good deed) we start felling we are ready to start correcting people , its not bad to correct but check yourself when u rush to correct how much u have done in terms of good deeds and then humble yourself . just because you wear hijab and the other person doesnt that doesnt mean you have better scale ,well you have beard and he recites Quran daily, you have hijab and she never talks to non muhram , you lower your gaze and he has khushu in swalah, you wear khamis and he is very polite to people , you have lihya( beard ) and he gives alot of charity . there are so many good deeds in this world and we cant do them all we do the best we can , so next time you want to correct a brother regarding his beard remember he might be doing another good deed that you are not doing so be humble and handle him the way you would want to be handled with that khairat that you might be missing .

every human being is a sinner , no one can claim they are perfect , like i said as long as you are still alive u still need to work hard until your dead thats the time youl know ur position , when your struggling to do good be consistent and pull others up with you,  dont force them but invite them because they might end up being your savior in akhera .

the wisdom missed today is the correcting approach , we want to pull people to destination rather than just getting them to the path , once we act religious we become haram police to our spouses , parents and society so much that people end up disliking some of the most beautiful aspects of religion . why do we want to make someone feel judged wen we correct them or make them feel that watever they are doing is all wrong . subhana Allah , Allah say call people with Hikma ( wisdom ) and we should not force things on them .  remember the prophet peace be upon him was loved even before he got revelation , get people through their hearts and see how much effect you will have , dont rush to see the result let the heart soften on its own and believe me the result will be more than expected. 

my whole point is that we all have a future from our current situation , we have to learn to compete in khairat and let ourselves grow , dont feel sorry for anyone when they are alive just be an example of the halwa( sweetness) of the path of Allah and let them taste on their own, if your having beard start having khushu , if you have hijab start reciting the Quran , if you have khushu in swalah memorize the Quran , if your hifdh ( the one who memorize the Quran) start being polite and kind to people and so on , you might never do all good deed but better to be consistent .  ..... never settle and never arrive keep going the path is still open as long as u can breath . 

LOVE

first step of love

how can we love without stopping , expecting anything and still don't feel left out and abandoned or neglected or used , well i guess we should first learn to know who to love , the problem of us human beings we tend to forget that we are very inferior beings and we have weaknesses . well thinking of it its not that we shouldn't love humans because everyone needs love and nomata what love is one feeling that has no actual definition as everyone sees it in their own way . how to manage love thats the question
first - we forget our creator and we fail to love Allah , people ask how can i love Allah and i sin everyday , they think loving Allah means to be perfect away from sins which is not the case like example a fisherman is fishing and has two nets one net on the process of fishing got a hole and he had to tie the hole while the other is perfectly fine which net will he be concentrating on the one in good condition or the one which has a deficiency its very obvious that he will be more concerned of the one with the defect same as us human beings our sins make holes in us and make us imperfect but Allah watches us and is much more concerned about us but we choose not to see that , Allah is so Merciful its too much subhanAllah imagine if every time we sin we get punished i bet no one could have been alive today the world could have been empty but see the Mercy of Allah He gives us time to go back to him , every night He descends to listen and grant his slaves his request just say am sorry Allah n He forgives you , do again n say sorry again forgiven just the fact that you remember that you have Allah and you wronged him n you went back to Him He forgives you but ajiiibbb human beings are indeed strange creatures with all that opportunity yet we fail to be Grateful . when we see of the Blessing of Allah ill say we dont need to love nothing or no one more than Allah because nobody can grant any human any favor the way Allah does and the best part its not so difficult to love Allah we just need to obey him , admit when we are wrong and repent, be grateful to Him and just be of service to him most of all Allah taught us a formula of going back to him when Adam wronged Allah see how Merciful Allah is we disobey him and he still teaches us how to say sorry writing this personally am ashamed of my own self , when Adam sinned Allah taught him to say

"Our Lord! we have wronged Ourselves. if You forgive us not, and bestow not upon us Your Mercy, we shall certainly be of the losers." (7:23)