first step of love

how can we love without stopping , expecting anything and still don't feel left out and abandoned or neglected or used , well i guess we should first learn to know who to love , the problem of us human beings we tend to forget that we are very inferior beings and we have weaknesses . well thinking of it its not that we shouldn't love humans because everyone needs love and nomata what love is one feeling that has no actual definition as everyone sees it in their own way . how to manage love thats the question
first - we forget our creator and we fail to love Allah , people ask how can i love Allah and i sin everyday , they think loving Allah means to be perfect away from sins which is not the case like example a fisherman is fishing and has two nets one net on the process of fishing got a hole and he had to tie the hole while the other is perfectly fine which net will he be concentrating on the one in good condition or the one which has a deficiency its very obvious that he will be more concerned of the one with the defect same as us human beings our sins make holes in us and make us imperfect but Allah watches us and is much more concerned about us but we choose not to see that , Allah is so Merciful its too much subhanAllah imagine if every time we sin we get punished i bet no one could have been alive today the world could have been empty but see the Mercy of Allah He gives us time to go back to him , every night He descends to listen and grant his slaves his request just say am sorry Allah n He forgives you , do again n say sorry again forgiven just the fact that you remember that you have Allah and you wronged him n you went back to Him He forgives you but ajiiibbb human beings are indeed strange creatures with all that opportunity yet we fail to be Grateful . when we see of the Blessing of Allah ill say we dont need to love nothing or no one more than Allah because nobody can grant any human any favor the way Allah does and the best part its not so difficult to love Allah we just need to obey him , admit when we are wrong and repent, be grateful to Him and just be of service to him most of all Allah taught us a formula of going back to him when Adam wronged Allah see how Merciful Allah is we disobey him and he still teaches us how to say sorry writing this personally am ashamed of my own self , when Adam sinned Allah taught him to say

"Our Lord! we have wronged Ourselves. if You forgive us not, and bestow not upon us Your Mercy, we shall certainly be of the losers." (7:23) 

Time utilization

have you ever woke up and thought how much u could have done and how far u could have been if u had utilized time the way it should be , the biggest problem we are facing is time management well to me managing time is the ability to divide tasks in such a manner that each part of the day is utilized wisely well to some people time management means reading the whole day well to me that's not time management that's wasting time why i say this is because every part of us has right over us from our oneself to the environment that we are living in so to manage time means that u give everything their rights . i mean time to eat time to sleep time to chat time to study time to think time to entertain ones selves time to go out take a break and break the rules , question is how to divide our day to manage time .

well Alhamdulillah for Muslims Allah subha wataala has already helped us divide the day and its up to us to add activities between the day .
a muslims day is divided into five equal parts that is every prayer time now the time between fajr and dhuhr or dhuhr to asr or asr to maghrib or maghrib to esha and esha to fajr this in between time is what will try to utilize to manage our time , lets start by after fajr subhAllah its very un healthy to sleep before sunrise personally av tried and the truth is it really interferes with ones day u feel exhausted the whole day and just want to lazy around and there is less activeness in oneself and its just another terrible day which by the time you recover urself the day is gone so how to use this period well put a schedule after fajr sit down and read the Quran for lets say 30 minutes and do abit of adhkar well its also very healthy to stand outside n watch the day as it comes and try to contemplate with the fresh morning breeze and birds singing so loudly n ask yourself how great Allah is . after that get ready for work or school , after dhuhr the Prophet peace be upon hims advised us to sleep atleast an hour before dhuhr or before asr this is the best refreshment of the day yaani u get to start ur day twice after asr sit and have some time to watch a clip or read a book and relax ones head then after maghrib the shortest period is between maghrib and esha after maghrib i can advise to take a walk till Esha time the after esha sleep well this is just a summary on how we can divide n utilize our day between the swalah time .
time is the precious gift u can give to a human being now imagine giving all ur time to serve Allah how successful one can be how much will Allah make you achieve and how far will He take you subhanAllah we have all the means to get to Allah but we choose not to that s very sad .

all successful people did well in time managemnet so thats the secret to success managing ourself in a manner that we are able to fulfill our task at the same time get rest have time to explore have good relationship with people and thus leading a successful life so ANYONE CAN BE SUCCESSFUL ITS ALL DEPEND ON HOW U MANAGE YOUR TIME !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LiFe

i love the above quote. it means a lot, really. i always think dat life is full of beauty. its beautiful. i knw life can never be as perfect as u can imagine. as thgs in Neverland. sometimes - there r those moments dat u feel like u jst want to skip and be done wit it - but , u cant. of course u cant, . life is those moments dat u hav to go thru. be it - u want it, or not. be it - u love it, or u hate it. theres no remote control in life where u can rewind and fast forward the moments.  - if it is so, i definitely will get one for me, hell yeah! but the fact is - there is no such.
no way too, u can freeze time. but if ur able to see the meaning of each moments u've been thru - whether it is good or bad - u'll find the life is worth to live. anyway - . life can be describes as many different thgs to other ppl. and someone even said dat life is like an endless marathon. dun u love the term? . jst like wat i said - u cant freeze time, u cant click the'pause' button in life - for there r none. u jst gotta go.. and continue ur life as u go along.

life is a marathon! i heard various version of wat life is. u name it, u got it. life is a gift - enjoy it. life isnt a dance on roses - dun get ur hopes too high. life is a battle , fight for it! life is a box of chocolate - u never knw wat ur gonna get - u mght be surprised sometimes, be happy anyway. life is a bitch - hardships await u. some even say life sucks  - so wat, things  happens sometimes. life is beautiful - fateful and tragic last words. the fact is - i think we r all missing the point. life is just life lah. and u mght say - life is an endless marathon. dats wat i think. it din come free. so if it is true - then wat? wat r most important success principles in a marathon?

needless to say, u need to hav enuff energy and resource to succeed. u need to be tenacious. u need to hav a strong mind. u need to use ur strength wisely and skilfully. u need to hav faith, hell yeah. u shld never lose ur trust in urself under any circumstances and never let the final goal slip out of ur mind. u must not be ruthless to ur fellow runners. kindness and helpfulness can go a long way. be grateful for any help u receive on the way. u also need to remember - any short term success surely add to the final success. and any small set back - is jst a temporary set back. yet the final score is not yet decided.
armed wit dis knwledge - u will not be devastated when u find urself in a temporary slump. the final score is wat it counts. u mght be surprised in the end of the march. it is not the strongest dat wins. it is somethg else.

10 tips to fight depression

1. Look at those below you

The Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, said: “Whenever you see someone better than you in wealth, face or figure, you should look at someone who is inferior to you in these respects” (Bukhari, Muslim). If you are reading this article online, consider this: you are one of the lucky set of human beings on the planet who can afford a computer and internet connection or at least have access to one. The United Nations Development Program’s 2007 Human Development Report notes that there are still around 1 billion people living worldwide at the margins of survival on less than $1 a day, with 2.6 billion living on less than $2 a day. Also consider that in the Quran (14:7), God says that if you are thankful to Him for what you have, He blesses you with more.

2. Serve your fellow human beings

The best way to thank God is to serve humanity, especially those who have less than you. Serving others is uplifting and rewarding. It helps us gain a better perspective on life’s challenges, making us realize how very often, are problems seem so small compared to the awesome difficulties others face. That’s why when the Prophet Muhammad, peace and blessings be upon him, and the Muslims were a small, poor and persecuted community, they used to give to the poor even more. They understood that when you are generous when you have less, you achieve the perspective of a winner. You are focused on the bigger picture.

3. Read Surah Ad Duha

According to one report, after the Prophet had begun receiving revelation from God, at one point a long period of time passed with no such communication from Allah. As a result, the Makkans ridiculed the Prophet and he became severely depressed. That’s when this chapter was revealed (Quran 93: 1-11). The chapter is a beautiful reminder to us to see life in the greater scheme of things, to be grateful for what we have and to never give up striving for what is right. This chapter of the Quran can be considered a direct recipe from God for depression.

4. Turn to God in all situations

Remember that nothing can harm you without the consent of God. While you must take care of yourself, rely on God and know that He is always with you and only He can give you strength in difficult times. Also remember that He will help you can come out of a trying situation as a better person if you deal with it positively.

5. Remember God’s Names

God has many beautiful Names which describe His attributes and powers. These are reminders of His Love, Mercy, Forgiveness, Justice, Strength and much, more. Supplicating to God using these Names reminds us that God has these attributes more than any other being and that we can and must rely on Him during good and bad times.

6. Say ‘Hasbun Allahu wa Ni’ mal Wakeel‘;

This has been translated as “God suffices me and He is the best guardian.” It is an excellent way of reminding us that whatever worries we have or problems we face, God has the answer and cure to all of them and is the only One who can really do what is best for us.

7. Make sure when you leave home,

you read this Dua ‘In the name of Allah, I place my trust in Allah, and there is no might nor power except with Allah.’ Bismillahe tawakkaltu alAllahe la haula wa la quwwata illa biAllah.

8. Take your spiritual break from the world,

five times a day Taking a break away from school, work or other life activities to spend a few minutes to remember God helps you reconnect with the Creator of the Universe, fortify your soul and strengthen your resolve to live a better life that is in tune with your faith and principles.

9. End your day on a good note

Shakespeare once wrote a play entitled “All’s well that ends well.” That’s good advice for dealing with depression too. End a day that may have been riddled with challenges and frustrations by making Wudu before going to bed, thinking of God and the Prophet and counting every blessings you have

10. Stop Shaytan in his tracks

Shaytan is the source of many of our negative emotions. It’s his job to make us feel pessimistic and to despair of any good in life. When you feel these feelings coming on, stop him dead in his tracks: say Aoutho billahi minash Shaytan ir Rajeem (I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed satan).

Spiders Web

The parable of those who take protectors other than Allah is that of the spider, who builds (to itself) a house; but truly the flimsiest of houses is the spider's house;- if they but knew. ” [29:41]

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Tafsir Ibn Kathir says about this verse: This is how Allah described the idolators in their reverence of gods besides Him, hoping that they would help them and provide for them, and turning to them in times of difficulties. In this regard, they were like the house of a spider, which is so weak and frail, because by clinging to these gods they were like a person who holds on to a spider's web, who does not gain any benefit from that. If they knew this, they would not take any protectors besides Allah.
Tafsir Al Jalalayn: “The likeness of those who choose besides God [other] patrons, namely idols from whom they hope to profit, is as the likeness of the spider that makes a home for itself in which to shelter. And truly the frailest, the weakest, of homes is the home of the spider – for it neither protects it from heat nor cold – likewise, idols cannot benefit those who worship them – if they only knew this, they would not worship them.”
According to this verse, the action of taking any other besides Allah as a judge or helper is like a spider spinning a web for itself. How does a spider spin its web?
It starts by shooting forth a single thread with a sticky end that attaches itself to a sturdy support nearby, which it might happen to fall on. Notice the uncertain nature of the start of the process? The spider has no idea what the thread will attach itself to, or if it will at all. Ironically, it makes an abode for itself by starting with a single thread in this uncertain manner!
Once attached to a sturdy support, the spider goes along that fixed thread, dropping another thread downwards, which dangles in the air. It moves back along the dangling, second thread and from its middle, lowers itself downwards on to another support. When it lands on the latter, it uses it as the third point of support for its web. It continues thus to weave more threads fixed on other nearby supports until it establishes a web of non-sticky threads. It further moves radially around these base threads to form another network of threads within them.
Finally, when the web is ready, the spider leaves a sticky fluid over it to snag prey, leaving room for itself to move around (avoid) that fluid as it maneuvers its way around its new “home”, then proceeds to sit in its center.
Here are a few thoughts that come to mind about this spiderâ  web:

1. It has a very flimsy, weak foundation. Though it hangs off sturdy supports such as walls, tree branches, or pillars, it is not strong in and of itself.
2. It is not clearly visible – a trait that increases the chances of snagging prey. Hence, it can get trampled upon, or rubbed against, by passing objects.
3. It is made of extremely fine, weak, interwoven threads; not strong, solid raw material.
4. It is two-dimensional in structure i.e. it is flat. It does not stand upon firm, hard ground. There are no roofs or walls offering security and cover from destructive climatic elements. Wind or rain can wash it away.
5. The spider spins its own web (i.e. it doesn't use any other materials) e.g. birds use sprigs or grass to build nests; ants use earth to construct anthills. The spider web, however, is a product of materials/secretions from within its own body.
6. The spider sits in the middle of its web, somewhat in isolation. It waits for its prey to get stuck in it.

We can now analyze how taking protectors or helpers besides Allah is akin to a spider spinning a home for itself. When I thought about this verse, I pondered on what the word  means. Does it mean that if I follow the verdicts or laws of those who do not rule according to the laws of Allah, or if I believe others besides Allah to be my helpers or protectors in difficulties and hopeless situations, I am like the web-weaving spider in my adherence to beliefs that are false?

how to relieve hardship

On my fourth wedding anniversary, two days before our first child was due, my marriage crumbled.  My husband abandoned us without warning, like a thunderstorm that suddenly shifts the winds and darkens the skies on an otherwise clear day and passes just as quickly, leaving in his wake the debris of debt, women, and lies.  The next night, I went into labor alone desperately reciting hasbunallahu wa ni`mal wakil, pleading Allāh to save my family, the physical pains of labor engulfed by the sharper, more seething pain of a broken heart.  On Friday afternoon, immediately after Jumu'ah Ṣalāh, my son silently entered the world; not a breath, cry or squirm announcing his arrival, prompting a controlled frenzy of doctors and nurses.  Although my son survived, my heart died.  I sold my house, I resigned from teaching, I struggled to pray.  I refused to leave the house for 10 months.
Such is the unexpected nature of divorce, splitting asunder the very foundation of a woman's existence, destroying her confidence, stifling her capacity to love, and paralyzing her faith.  It is in this condition that I found myself facing a tremendous test from Allāh – the responsibility of single motherhood.
A human being's instinctual response in the face of tragedy is survival, the struggle to fulfill basic human needs – cleanliness, warmth, sustenance, and sleep.  For a new mother, the needs of her newborn child supersede her own, as she responds to his cries, nursing, changing, and soothing him tirelessly, forcing her into an unfamiliar solitude and causing bouts of anxiety and depression. For a divorced new mother in 'iddah, the solitude is tenfold, requiring tremendous love, concern, and support from others.  Yet, tragedy repels people from the one who suffers.  Too numb from my own pain and fatigued from attending to my son, I welcomed the solitude, reflecting on my relationship with Allāh, repenting for my sins, weeping and begging for His mercy.  I found solace in the du'ā' of Umm Salamah (raḍyAllāhu 'anha), which she recited after the death of her husband, Abu Salamah, and before her marriage to the Prophet:

Oh, Allāh, recompense me for my affliction and replace it with something better.

 In quiet dhikr and reflection, my days ebbed and flowed testing my ṣabr and building my resilience.

Here are 7 practical steps to help you face any difficult situation

1. Salah. Make sure you stick to praying on time – 5 times a day. Never miss a salah and do your best to pray each Salah with sincerity as if it’s your last salah in this world.
   
2. Read Quran. This Quran is so beautiful that no matter what difficulties you face you’ll find solace in it. Especially read Surat Yusuf. The scholars say that no one is faced with hardship and reads surat Yusuf except he finds sweetness and calm.
   
3. Make Dua. Especially the dua for removing anxiety.
   
4. Give Sadaqah. Give lots of charity, as much as you can, because it helps push away hardship. And if you can’t give money, even kind words or physical sadaqah can do (i.e. helping people physically or emotionally).
   
5. Set Goals and Have Vision. Don’t let shaytaan play with you and keep replaying the video of your hardship in your mind over and over again, move on! Set new goals, new projects, and remember you’re with Allah, nothing should stop you!
   
6. Wake up Early. Wake up before fajr and work on your ideas and projects, or simply read Qur’an. Getting busy before day break is a definite way to move away from your hardship and overcome challenges. Get most of your ideas/work done in these early hours, these are blessed hours.
   
7. Hardship is Not Lost. Remember, Allah will never forget the injustice/hardship you faced, so don’t worry about seeking revenge or trying to get justice

WINNING THE HEARTS.

1.Smile

2.Be always the one who initiates greeting

3.The Presents

4.Be silent….speak in what benefits.

5.Be a good listener

6.Appearance and dressing well

7.Being in others favor and helping them

8.Being Generous

9.To have a good opinion of others and to give them an excuse 

10.Express your feelings… instantly

11.Sociability